This is a planning project, in that the more time spent up front planning/designing how everything goes, the more likely it is the project will work well.
Learning a CAD program (some are free for home use) can make revising the design and calculating loads/forces at various points much easier, which you will quickly want, as that extra level of articular (compared with a loader) makes it that much more math.
Googling diy backhoe plans, you can find both pre-made plans and youtube videos of people who have made them, to give you design ideas (like outriggers), and you might even consider buying a premade plan.
It's not really a scrap-metal project, in that using too light steel will bend, and using too much really reduces what the backhoe can do, because of the leverage the backhoe puts on the tractor when it's extended.
You might also consider making it a trailer-style backhoe, so you can more easily make a beefy axle/mounting point for the backhoe and outriggers, and still use the tractors engine to power the pump.