Friend of mine had a slight surging issue and after throwing parts at it, finally found the Intake Manifold sucking air. Replaced the gasket and runs perfect now. Might be something for you to look at.
To answer the question ether starting fluid or water can be used. Ether will speed rev up and water will rev down.What's the best way to locate that? I know u can use starter fluid on gas engines. But I don't know if that would be safe on a diesel?