Control arm being bent is common, straighten it and as for the cam follower pin 5/16 drill bit is what is use. They are harder and last longer even though there are those that say it will wear out the cam. If the cam wears I can build it back up with bronze rods and a torch or if really want to get fancy build it up with nickle rods.
The washer will work fine.
The washer will work fine.