Compact or sub-compact

First "Official" post here so take it easy on the newb.

Bachelor days are over. I got married, bought a house, and sold my toy ATV for a tractor. The uses I intend to use it for don't justify the purchase of a garden tractor.

Our house has just over 8 acres, of which hopefully this summer we'll have 1-1.5 acres of grass. We share a private gravel road with 2 other neighbors, which it is our responsibility to maintain the road (i.e., snowplow and regrade). This road is approx. 1/8 mile. On top of that, our house needs significant landscaping improvements. Everything from tree removal/bucking, retaining wall building, loaming, etc.

Those are the 3 main purposes we intend to use the tractor for, which I see the need for a tractor with a mower, loader, grader, and possibly a plow. Later, I could forsee a 3 point generator and a wood splitter. I've looked at the Kubota BX2360 and B2300 along with the Deere 1023e and 2320. Each dealer I've spoken with hasn't tried to sell me the more expensive tractor. They've instructed me to do some more research and discuss with others to better match the tractor for my needs.

Another question I have is skidsteer attachment interchangeability? can attachments like pallet forks, oversized buckets, etc. be mated to a FEL?